The Gay Solution (1): Finding a Loving Male Partner to Marry

Sex without love wouldn't satisfy you for more than 15 minutes and love without sex wouldn't satisfy you at all. So how do you find both in the same man? That was the question I left you with in a previous article.

A friend of mine is a life-insurance broker. He always says that there is only one rule for survival in sales and that is see people, see people, and see people. It's a numbers game. Of all the people you are going to see only between 2 and 10% will buy from you, so the more you see, the better your sales. Meeting people is exactly the same; the more people you meet, the better your chance of meeting the right person. Luckily there are a few possibilities in meeting new people.

The older guys (read: even older than I am) tell us that they didn't have gay clubs, bars, or dating services so they had to refine their gaydar and flirting skills. The fact is that those skills are still just as valuable today as they were years ago. Another important skill is taking it one step at a time. Two types of guys never end up with a perfect match; those who fly off in a second, and those who never come out of the starting block. The guys that fly off are proposing marriage before they even know the other guy, and those in the starting blocks only stare evening in and evening out.

If you are a flyer you need to relax. Look for friends in stead of possible partners. Nothing is a bigger turn-off than a guy who hits on you after he has tried everybody else on his way to your table. Friendly people have a few good friends, many acquaintances, and two or three possible people they might be interested in. Guys who try to fly into serious relationships have no friends, one or two acquaintances, and the whole city as possible people they are interested in. The important thing you should learn from this is that you start by meeting lots of people, you will find a few very good friends among them, and in time you will meet somebody you are really interested in. Flyers always run the risk of getting their heart broken on a weekly basis. You can never keep up with who they are in love with - it changes every time you see them, and every month or two they try you yet again. That is when you decide to ignore them completely.

The guys who never take off are almost in the same position. They see a possibility every night, but they are too scared to do anything about it. They look a bit weird if they stand in a corner ogling everybody so you ignore them as well. They have a few acquaintances that turns into friends because they normally end up in a group of seekers - waiting for something that never happens. If you are in such a group get out and start building your self-esteem. If you do not think that you are good enough as a partner, nobody else will believe in you either.

With that in your mind go back to the gay clubs, gay bars, dating sites, and the gay section of your local bookstore - start by making friends, being a good friend, and enjoying friendship for its own rewards. Stay away from the friend-zone - that is the ogling bunch in the corner. You will do fine.

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Gay Rights and Family Obstacles

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Family is a basic right in any culture, but for some reason this is true for all people as long as you are not gay. This is what happens in moderate countries. In radical homophobic countries you do not only lose your right to a family, you lose your right to live, or your right to freedom. The difference between moderate and radical homophobic countries lies in the specific human right they take away. All of them, that is 176 of the 192 UN countries, take at least one of the following basic human rights away:

I hope everybody would agree that the following are basic human rights:

1. The right to live,
2. The right to be free
3. The right to earn a living
4. The right to be part of a family

In radical homophobic countries the first right is taken away by the death penalty. In countries that are just a little less radical your right to freedom is taken away by being jailed. In a little bit more moderate countries your right to earn a living is taken away because you could be fired if you are gay. In countries that are more moderate your right to be part of a family is taken away because:

1. You are not allowed to get married
2. Organizations motivate your parents to ban you out of their homes.

Which countries take away these basic human rights?

1. The death penalty: Iran, Iraq, Yemen and 7 other countries.
2. Imprisonment: Egypt, Morocco, Nigeria and 78 other countries.
3. Can lose your job or can't get married: Some states in the USA and 84 other countries

Which countries do not take away these basic human rights?

1. Where you can get married and have equal rights: Netherlands, Belgium, Canada, South-Africa and 12 other countries

If you think about this it is actually amazing that people can argue about these kind of rights in our day and age. Whether you like gay people or not; the rights we are talking about should not be denied to anybody that didn't commit a crime against other people. Why are we still arguing about this? Isn't it obvious that a country that calls itself free should protect these rights for everybody?

Off course we are arguing this because the rights that are denied isn't everybody's concern. It is human that we are only worried when our own rights are denied. The main argument against the right to a family or the right to marry is that it makes a spectacle of a sacred tradition. If that is the argument we should also ban those who are getting married after a second, third, or fourth marriage. After all, aren't they making a spectacle of the sacred tradition as well?