Thursday 22 September 2016

Ugandan police raid LGBT fashion show

Twenty people detained during Pride event in country where homosexuality is illegal under colonial-era laws


Ugandan police broke up a gay Pride event in the capital last night and arrested about 20 people, in the latest incident highlighting the risks facing the LGBT community in the country.
A fashion show was underway at a nightclub in Kampala when police arrived and demanded to know who had organised the event, said gay rights activist Frank Mugisha.
Mugisha, the director of Sexual Minorities Uganda, was handcuffed when he identified himself as one of the organisers. He was arrested in a group of about 20, put on a truck and driven to a police station for questioning, he said.
Mugisha said the group had been released more than two hours later without being charged, although some detainees said they had been slapped or pushed around by officers
One man trying to escape arrest at the nightclub had injured himself while jumping to safety, he said. “We condemn the police’s actions, the use of excessive force during arrest,” he said.
Ugandan police spokesman Patrick Onyango confirmed the arrests but gave no further details.
Homosexuality is illegal in Uganda under a colonial-era law that prohibits sex acts “against the order of nature”.
This incident highlights the challenges faced by gays in the country, where homosexuality is severely stigmatised.
In 2009 an MP introduced a bill that prescribed the death penalty for some homosexual acts, saying he wanted to protect children. The proposed bill prompted international condemnation and eventually a less severe versionpassed by MPs was rejected by a court as unconstitutional.


Watchdog groups say LGBTI Ugandans routinely face violence, discrimination and extortion.
“Tonight’s outrageous and unlawful government raid on a spirited celebration displays the extreme impunity under which Ugandan police are operating,” Health Gap, a US-based Aids advocacy group, said in a statement.
“We call on governments and UN bodies to immediately and publicly condemn this brutal raid and call on government to take swift disciplinary action against those responsible for these gross violations of rights and freedoms.”


Before the raid Kuchu Times, a collective focusing on LGBTI issues in Africa, tweeted photographs from the show, which was dedicated to those killed when agunman opened fire at a gay nightclub in Orlando.
The group said Pride events planned for today would continue, despite the police intervention.

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2016/aug/05/uganda-police-raid-lgbt-gay-pride

Wednesday 21 September 2016

A Safer Option for Same Sex Divorce

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Same sex marriage was legalized in New Jersey in October of 2013. The US Supreme Court gave it nationwide status in June of 2015. Prior to those dates Civil Unions and Domestic Partnerships were the only way for a same sex couple to enter into a marriage like legal agreement. After becoming a legal option for gay and lesbian couples in New Jersey, almost three thousand same sex couples exercised their right to marry in the first six months of legalization.

Unfortunately gay and lesbian couples encounter many of the same relationship challenges as heterosexual couples. These challenges have the same effect on relationships, regardless of sexual orientation. Divorce seems to be the inevitable solution to serious domestic problems for an almost identical percentage of couples, regardless of sexual preference. Some studies suggest that LGBT couples may have a slightly better chance at marital success, but there isn't enough history to confirm or deny that assumption at this point in time.

The newness of Gay and Lesbian marriage is equally reflected in the lack of divorce statistics and even more importantly case law. What this means for the LGBT couples seeking a divorce is that there are some unknowns that have little or no legal precedent to predict an obvious outcome. Although issues such as the division of financial assets should be easily determined based on years of case history and the universal nature of the property in question, not everything in a LGBT Divorce is comparable.

In a heterosexual marriage many of the items acquired as a married couple have more of a gender specific function based on the overall percentages of users. Many times these items are easily divided during the divorce process based on who uses what. Clothing items, toiletries, hobby equipment and tools for specific functions tend to be easily divided by most divorcing couples. On the other hand, marital partners of the same sex would be much more likely to share what might be deemed personal items to a heterosexual couple, further clouding the division of property.

The issue of child custody and support in LGBT divorce are unique and probably the biggest variable. Unfortunately same sex couples don't have the luxury of just letting things happen when it comes to starting a family. Adoption, sperm donor, surrogate mother and many other variables that a same sex couple faces when starting a family, create a similar set of questions when unwinding the marriage.

Same sex couples can go the traditional route of litigation when Divorcing, but that process may leave them at the mercy of a ruling they didn't see coming. Rather than face the prospect of being blind sided by a court decision, same sex couples may find the mediation process better suited to a fair divorce settlement they can both live with. A Mediated divorce gives both parties input and the opportunity to negotiate a settlement that works for both parties.

Divorce mediation is about compromise between vested parties, utilizing objective intervention as needed by an impartial mediator. Mediation is just a process for reaching the desired goal. In the end a legally binding and enforceable divorce settlement that works for the divorcing couple and is in the best interest of any children involved may be predictably achieved.

Saturday 10 September 2016

Transitioning Out of the Closet

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As most parents of trans men would say, "I'm losing my little girl." The unfortunate thing is that these men that are transitioning were never really "girls" to begin with. The thing that these mothers are learning to grasp are that these men weren't really girls to begin with. Trans men are, simply, born into the wrong body. Meaning: they have to work to be the men they were destined to be, so even when they were born with breasts and vaginas, those bodily organs do not make them any less than a man.

Trans men, though still men, have to work harder to look and be perceived as men. They bind their chests to have a more masculine chest, and buy packers to have a bulge in their pants, all to be perceived as a man. With time, and money, they start Testosterone injections to grow facial hair and a more masculine build. After two years of Testosterone injections and gender therapy to ensure that they really want to be a gender other than their own, they obtain a letter saying that they have a diagnosis of Gender Identity Disorder. This letter allows them to begin physically transitioning from female to male.

The physical transitions starts with a voluntary double mastectomy. In having this surgery, the surgeon removes breast tissue. Depending on the size of the breasts, the surgeon will also do a nipple graph. Meaning: the surgeon with reduce the size of the nipple and graph it onto a more masculine area of the chest to appear more like a male's chest. In doing this surgery, there are scars under each, now, pectorals, but to a Trans*Man, it is worth it because now they can feel themselves, without the need to wear a chest binder. They, now, feel a new found acceptance of themselves, an acceptance they didn't have before.

The whole reason of top surgery is to make the outside of the body reflect the want of the feelings on the inside. This means that trans men have this knowledge of what they want to look like on the outside, but they have to work for it through surgery, hormone replacement therapy, and acceptance of the people around them. No trans man wants to go through their transition alone. They want loved ones, family and friends, to be there when they wake up from surgery or when they get their first injection of testosterone or when they get their first chest or facial hair.

The problem with transitioning is most people don't have an understanding of what is going on, or to others what is "wrong" with them. The whole reason why most people have those perceptions are that society does not feel the need to be educated about the trans community. People in and out of the LGBT community do not know enough about the last letter of LGBT, Transgender. The problem does not lie within the transgender individual, it lies within the interpretations of the bodies of the individual. If a transgender individual says they want to do these things to their body, it is because they want to be perceived as who they feel they were meant to be.

Society asks transgender people why they want to transition into a gender other than their own. Most would respond with "I want to be who I was meant to be." Meaning: they were not born into the wrong body, they were born into a life that their parents wanted them to be. Their parents have this interpretation of who they want their child to be from the moment they learn the child's assigned sex at birth. They think about the relationships the child will have, the schooling they want to pursue, or the youthful clothes and toys they will play with, all based on a sex that they assume their gender will fall into.

It is not the fault of the parents, nor the child. They were simply not informed about the different aspects of a child's views on themselves and others. There are four different expressions and identities a child and parent are entitled to; assigned sex at birth, gender identity, gender expression, and sexual orientation. Assigned sex at birth is, simply, the sex you were given when you come out of the womb; female or male. Gender identity is the way a person wants to be, regardless of the sex they were assigned at birth; boy, girl, and anything in between. Gender expression is the way you want the world to see you as; the way you feel inside and how you want to express that to the world. Sexual orientation is who a person is attracted to; female, male, no one, everyone, and everything in between.

Everyone is entitled to these views of themselves, but not everyone is raised to be accepting of themselves and others. The way someone was brought up has a lot to do with the views they have on the world. If a person was raised to hate the LGBT community, they were, most likely, not raised to be accepting of others very well. Meaning: people act the way they were raised until they are taught something different. Life is a teaching process, no one knows the things they are going to learn day to day.

The views that society has on the transgender community are not going to change overnight. However, everyday is an opportunity to take a step towards a new beginning. That new beginning is accepting the people that most people are unaware of. Accepting the people that need to be seen the most. The people that are homeless because of the unacceptance, because of the oppression that society does not want to deal with.

Friday 9 September 2016

Government funding projects to tackle homophobia in faith schools

The government has announced funding for two projects to tackle homophobic, biphobic and transphobic bullying in faith schools.
Under funding pledged by former Minister for Woman and Equalities Nicky Morgan, the Department for Education today announced the recipients of a £4.4million fund for LGBT anti-bullying initiatives in schools.
Two of the 10 projects, from Stonewall and Bernado’s, are specifically aimed at LGBT-inclusivity among religious communities and in faith schools, where LGBT-inclusive education can often be the most lacking.
Barnardo’s plans to deliver a programme “in partnership with faith organisations, addressing HBT bullying and supporting young LGBT people of faith”.
Meanwhile, Stonewall plans to use funding to “create specific guidance” for faith organisations and faith schools, aiming to “support LGB&T pupils within their communities, offer bespoke consultation to leadership teams, and deliver school staff training through their expert faith delivery partners.”
Education Secretary Justine Greening said: “School should be a safe place where children can go to grow and learn. No child should ever be bullied.”
Barnardo’s Chief Executive Javed Khan said: “No child should ever have to deal with the trauma of being bullied. We want all schools to tackle HBT bullying and create an environment where every child and young person feels respected, supported and safe.
“Our work has shown us that Homophobic Biphopic and Transphobic (HBT) bullying is a particularly malicious form of abuse. The funding will provide the much needed resources to tackle HBT bullying at its core and will help to give those affected by bullying support if they need it.”
Dominic Arnall, Head of Projects and Programmes at Stonewall, said: “We want our work on tackling homophobic, biphobic and transphobic bullying in schools to reach even further, so every lesbian, gay, bi and trans young person can feel safe and supported in the classroom and can achieve their full potential.
“This funding will enable us to work in partnership with faith groups and schools to deliver training appropriate to each of the major faiths to help teachers tackle anti LGBT abuse effectively.
“We’re working with expert faith partners on this project who will not only help us consult with schools but will also help deliver bespoke training and support.
“We’ll be equipping hundreds of teachers with the skills and tools that will enable them to create learning environments where every child can be accepted without exception.”
Other projects funded include an app to allow students to report homophobic cyberbullying, and anti-bullying training from groups including Diana Award, which operates in memory of Princess Diana.







Thursday 8 September 2016

How to Deal With the Dilemmas of Gay Dating

Unhappy relationships, fights and breakups can mess up your mind and discourage you from dating again. But, one bad relationship doesn't mean that you are not going to date anyone ever again. Look around, there are men out there who are just like you, and they've had breakups and broken hearts too. The moment you find the one who is truly in love with you, it will make you forget all those failed attempts.

And when you do find a perfect match, many of you might have dilemmas that can break your burgeoning relationship. For this reason, you need to know what those gay dating dilemmas can be and what you can do to avoid them.

'Let go' of the past

Every gay man has stories about 'coming out', childhood, parents, fear and broken hearts. But don't let things that happened in the past affect your present or future. It was a thing of the past, so use it as knowledge & wisdom. Give a fresh and healthy start to your new relationship.

Expensive dates when you are in different income brackets

The difference in income can become a major cause of breakups. You have a higher income and want to plan expensive dates, and you're ready to make all the payments. But this can sometimes offend the other person and you don't even realize. So, you need to keep the other person's feelings in mind and plan accordingly.

Be a fearless gay dating guy

First of all, you need to be yourself, one who is not afraid of dating. Even if you try to show that you are a fearless gay dating guy, if he feels that you are afraid, it means you probably really are. So, get things clear in your mind before you start dating as breaking someone's heart isn't good for either of you.

Express your feelings

Don't hide your feelings from the person you love. Express your feelings but if you think you still need to wait for the right time, then do! Sometimes though, there is no right time to express your love, every moment is right, so just open up and don't leave it too late. Today, a number of online sites offer gay dating tips, so take their help.

Stop comparing

You are special, unique, and nobody can compete with you. Stop comparing yourself with your boyfriend's ex or anyone else as it will lead you nowhere and will just ruin your relationship.

Communication is key

Yes, when dating someone, you need to have adequate communication with each other. Whether you prefer to communicate via text, or calls, or in person, make sure that you have healthy conversations with each other. Also, if your mate prefers to talk over a call while you want to communicate via texts, there's no harm picking up his call, rather than creating unwanted turmoil in a relationship.

Be honest & open up in a genuine way

Don't just presume you'll be able to be intimate with a new person on your very first date. Take your time, understand each other and then discuss if you can move further in your relationship. Only if the other person is comfortable, go ahead and make love.

Today's technologically advanced world helps you find a perfect match sitting at home. A number of online gay dating sites will help you search for a compatible match the easy way. Moreover, these sites sometimes also provide gay dating tips so that you can have a healthy and happy relationship.


Tuesday 9 August 2016

5 myths to dispel about allowing trans and intersex athletes to openly compete - Read more at: http://scl.io/JcYqTksI#gs.F2mUXiI

LGBTI advocates have welcomed the inclusion of trans and intersex athletes at Rio 2016, but others still regard their participation in sport as controversial 


The Olympics are here and a new controversy is on the rise: its new policies for transgender and intersex athletes, will be put to the test for the first time in history.
The rights of trans and intersex athletes and the integrity of women’s competition are not mutually exclusive. What defines an athlete, or more specifically, an intersex or transgender athlete? Let’s dispel some of the myths surrounding trans and intersex people in athletics:
Myth 1 : Intersex athletes are so rare that their rights can be discounted
Despite the pervasiveness of the ‘male-female’ binary, somewhere between 1 in 1500 and 1 in 60 babies are born with some mixture of male and female sex characteristics. Intersex people are as common as redheads.
The presence of intersex people in elite athletics is even stronger – over 140 times more common than in the general population.
Last July, intersex Indian sprinter Dutee Chand successfully challenged the International Association of Athletics Federation (IAAF)’s hyperandrogenism regulations; now, women with naturally high testosterone levels can compete without taking hormone blockers.
Chand and another superstar intersex athlete, South African Caster Semenya, will be competing later this month in the Rio Summer Olympics.
Since the Olympics began, the International Olympics Committee (IOC) has been tasked with drawing an un-crossable line between ‘male’ and ‘female’ that does not actually exist; the process has not been victimless.
Both Chand and Semenya’s careers fell under threat after they were subjected to extensive sex testing.
Both women were misled by sporting authorities about why they were being tested and, like many other athletes, neither had any idea what ‘intersex’ meant before they were subjected for years to dehumanizing media scrutiny.
Others were pressured into medically unnecessary surgeries to force their bodies to conform to an acceptable standard of ‘femininity.’ Such injustice has been shockingly common and cannot be overlooked.
Myth 2: Trans and intersex inclusion will encourage men to dupe their way into women’s trophies
This is an ancient argument with no real foundation besides misogyny. Since women were first allowed to compete in sports, a traditionally ‘manly’ activity, the rulemakers of elite athletics have obsessed over the non-existent threat of ‘gender fraud,’ likely fueled by doubt that skilled women athletes could even be women.
From ‘certificates of femininity’ to ‘nude parades’ to chromosome testing and coercive gonadectomies, elite athletics has immersed itself in gender policing perhaps more than any other arena.
In decades of intensive sex testing, not once have Olympics officials discovered a man masquerading as a woman.
Anyone who believes that this will now become commonplace underestimates the terrible stigma that trans women face from the public and from their fellow athletes. No man is about to jump at the opportunity to be ridiculed.
Myth 3: Trans women have significant athletic advantage even after hormone therapy
According to the IOC’s new policies, released last January, trans men are now allowed to compete ‘without restriction’ while trans women must go on hormone replacement therapy (HRT) for at least 12 months, or until their testosterone levels drop below the ‘male’ lower limit.
Sex reassignment surgery is no longer required.
Despite ‘common knowledge’ that biological males are naturally better than females at sports, research has indicated that different average testosterone levels are the only reliable explanation for the 10-12 percent average advantage elite male athletes have over elite female athletes.
Even then, minimal research has been conducted on the relationship between biological sex and athletic performance, and even less on the ‘special case’ of trans and intersex people.
There is no evidence that trans women on hormone therapy (HRT) that lower their testosterone have any significant performance advantage over cis women.
In fact, a landmark study on the topic revealed that competitive male athletes, after transitioning with HRT to women and subsequently weakening their running times, become competitive to a similar degree in women’s races.
Plus, any elite athlete would balk at the assumption that biology is the only or even primary reason for their success. No one makes it to Olympic podium without the highest drive, discipline, and focus.
Myth 4: An ‘even playing field’ is an attainable goal
The question of ‘fair competition’ becomes problematic when dealing with the realities of the sex and gender spectrum. American 1500m record holder Shannon Rowbury has stated that intersex inclusion ‘challenges and threatens the integrity of women’s sports.’ On the contrary, intersex people should not be penalized for making best use of their natural physical state.
Many other biological abnormalities – from high lung capacity to longer legs – offer competitive advantages, but none of these is regulated. Men’s testosterone levels go similarly unregulated.
Additionally, many factors apart from the biological contribute hugely to an athlete’s ability.
Chand grew up in poverty-stricken Southern India, with much less easy access to the good nutrition, coaching, and facilities needed to support a promising young athlete. Even if her higher testosterone is an advantage, why should she be punished for this advantage while athletes with wealthy upbringings are not?
An absolutely level playing field, while an admirable goal, can only be aspirational.
Myth 5: The fight for intersex and trans athletes’ rights is won
The Olympics’ new policies remain for the most part untested. No out trans athlete has yet competed in the Olympics, and the Court of Arbitration for Sport will reevaluate the IOC’s hyperandrogenism regulations in 2017.
But Rio may be our first taste of a morphing political landscape. If Semenya not only wins gold but demolishes a 30-year-old world record, she will likely be thrown to the media bloodhounds once again.
And don’t expect the two anonymous British trans women who may be competing to come out of the closet anytime soon, as trans advisor for sporting bodies Delia Johnson states that their ‘fear of ridicule and total humiliation is so massive’ that they plan to ‘probably drop back’ if their Rio performance earns them a spot on the podium.
Who can blame them? Recent coverage of their participation – sparse, but growing – has featured enough self-righteous transphobic rhetoric to launch a panic in the sports world that threatens the trans rights movement internationally.
We can only expect this backlash to grow as more out trans and intersex athletes begin to compete and, more contentiously, to win. Be a better trans and intersex ally, and brace yourself for a battle that is just beginning.
Ariel Hoffmaier is a member of OutRight Action International’s communications team. Founded in 1990 and guided by the values of collaboration, depth and feminism, OutRight Action International (OutRight) strives to support lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and intersex (LGBTI) people to live safer, healthier, and more empowered lives worldwide. OutRight’s vision of change includes policy reform, legal challenges, coalition initiatives, and stronger LGBTI communities worldwide.

http://www.gaystarnews.com/article/myths-trans-intersex-athletes-rio-2016/#gs.F2mUXiI

Monday 8 August 2016

Reject the Spin: Trump Is LGBT Americans' Greatest Threat

Like a man embracing his bride while coyly winking over his shoulder at one of his wedding party guests, Donald Trump used the Republican National Convention to stir passion among the party base while lightly romancing LGBT people. The flirtation included Trump’s (awkward) reference to “LGBTQ people” in his acceptance speech — a first for a Republican presidential candidate. Earlier, a Trump supporter said he was “proud to be gay” in a prime-time speech. That’s also a first for a Republican convention.
Could it be that The Donald has softened his —and his party’s — notorious and discriminatory policy positions regarding LGBT people? It seems hard to believe. I still remember watching Pat Buchanan’s prime-time speech at the Republican convention, just six election cycles ago, when he bellowed “There is a culture war going on in our country for the soul of America” while people in the audience thundered their approval and waved signs that read “Family Rights Forever, Gay Rights Never.”
Now we have the Republican nominee going so far as to say in his acceptance speech that he would “protect our LGBTQ citizens from the violence and oppression of a hateful foreign ideology.” He even thanked those who applauded that line. And it was just a few months ago that Trump was thanked by Caitlyn Jenner for telling NBC’s Matt Lauer that people should be able to use whichever bathroom they feel most comfortable using.
So whatever you may think of Trump’s other policy positions — and there certainly is a lot to chew on in that regard — is he a candidate we can count on to advance equal rights and protections for LGBT people? Hardly. In fact, I have grave fears about what a Trump presidency would mean specifically for our community — besides what it would mean for our environment, for women, for Latinos, for black lives, for immigrants, for foreign relations, and so much more.
Let’s start with Trump’s convention speech pledge to protect LGBTQ people from violent and oppressive foreign ideologies. Here in the U.S., the threat specifically to LGBT people from foreign ideologies ranks low, somewhere near the threat to us from Chick-fil-A. Trump referenced the horrific murder of 49 people at the Pulse gay nightclub in Orlando before claiming to protect us, simply as a means to pit LGBT people against Muslims while promoting support for his unconstitutional ban on Muslim immigrants.
Except the Orlando shooter wasn’t an immigrant. He was a New Yorker of Muslim faith who was found by the CIA to have no links to ISIS and who was described by his wife as “mentally unstable and mentally ill.” In other words, he’s someone who shouldn’t have had access to the arsenal of weapons he used to conduct the worst mass shooting in the history of our country. But Trump, who’s proudly endorsed by the National Rifle Association, doesn’t believe in any restrictions on the constitutional right to gun ownership. 
The greatest threat to our well-being isn’t from hateful foreign ideologies. It’s from hateful domestic ideologies like those in the platform of the party that nominated Trump, ideologies promoted by political, religious, and community leaders who foster a culture that dehumanizes LGBT people and devalues our lives. A culture that causes parents to abandon their LGBT children, that convinces LGBT youth death is preferable to living, and that leads to brutal hate crimes against us. A culture that last year resulted in the murder of 22 transgender women.
The head of the Log Cabin Republicans said this year’s GOP platform is “the most anti-LGBT platform” in the history of the party (and that says something). It’s a policy paper that supports the repeal of our freedom to marry, opposes the adoption of children by same-sex couples, demeans LGBT parents by implying our kids are more likely to abuse drugs and turn to crime, calls for banning transgender people from using the bathrooms that match their gender identity, and affirms dangerous and discredited conversion “therapy” to change sexual orientation.
This brings me to Trump’s choice for vice president, Indiana Gov. Mike Pence, because Pence is the human embodiment of that anti-LGBT platform.
Political pundits often say a presidential candidate’s choice of running mate is one of the most important decisions a candidate will make and a reflection of the would-be president’s judgment. But since vice presidents typically have little influence over policy (Biden and Cheney are recent exceptions to this rule), should Pence’s background and experience matter that much? In this case, it may matter more than the selection of any other vice president.
Before the job was offered to Pence, Ohio Gov. John Kasich rejected an offer to not only be Trump’s running mate, but also to become “the most powerful vice president” in the history of our country by managing foreign and domestic policy (it’s unclear what that would leave for Trump). Pence likely received the same offer. That should frighten LGBT people and all who believe in the promise of a free and equal nation.
Pence’s long history of opposing equal rights for LGBT people includes signing Indiana’s so-called religious liberty bill last year to legalize wide-scale discrimination against LGBT people. It was one of the most draconian, anti-LGBT pieces of legislation in the history of our country, enabling just about any business owner to refuse service to LGBT people. Pence is also a forceful opponent of marriage equality and a strong advocate of conversion therapy, which is outlawed in several states, and he even proposed to fund it with taxpayer dollars.

But if Trump is elected president, the greatest threat to LGBT people won’t come just from the executive branch of our government; it will come from the judicial. That’s because Trump has vowed to fill openings on the U.S. Supreme Court with people just like the late Justice Antonin Scalia. Scalia, who was perhaps the most anti-LGBT Justice to ever serve on the court, opposed marriage equality and anti-discrimination law, supported sodomy laws, and famously compared gay men and lesbians to murderers, child abusers, pedophiles, and people who have sex with — and beat — animals.
There’s one opening on the Supreme Court now, and during the next president’s term there are likely to be a few others. Imagine what the future of the LGBT movement will be like with three Scalias on the court. Decades of progress could be reversed.
But hey, at least Trump supports the right of people to use the bathroom of their choice, as he said on the Today show, right? No. Under a little pressure from Ted Cruz during the primary, the guy who promises to be the strongest president in the history of our country quickly flipped, saying that states should have the right to punish someone who uses a bathroom that doesn’t correspond with their birth gender.
So this November, please don’t be fooled by a candidate who’s whispering sweet nothings in your ears and batting his eyelashes, because he’s also vowing to hurt you or — if you’re an LGBT ally — hurt those you love and care about. And please vote.

Tuesday 5 January 2016

Signs That You Are Gay

How To Tell If You Are Gay

                  

What are the signs that you are gay? Are you really gay or are your thoughts about other men just a fantasy? Unfortunately, the answer to these questions aren't simple. It's important to ask yourself if you are both sexually and emotionally attracted to other men since being gay is more than just physical. There is an emotional connection that sets being gay apart from being gay curious or merely having same-sex fantasies.

It's not unusual for guys to have sexual fantasies about other guys while they are exploring their sexuality. These thoughts are not concrete indicators that you are gay.

Stereotypes
Despite common stereotypes, there is also no particular gay look or type of mannerism that reads gay. Gay people are extremely diverse. Some are more masculine than others. Some are more effeminate. Try no to fall into the trap of using stereotypes as an indicator of your sexuality.

How gay are you?
Also, sexuality is extremely fluid, meaning not all people are 100% gay or 100% straight (see Kinsey Scale). Where do your feelings fall on the scale?
You may be either gay, bisexual or simply curious.

How to find out if you're gay
The best way to determine if you are gay is to explore your sexuality. Experiment with your attractions. How does it feel when you are with a man as opposed to a woman? Are you attracted to both on a sexual and emotional level or just one? Exploring your sexuality is a personal journey. You don't have to announce your exploration to others unless you are ready to

Monday 4 January 2016

Isis: 15-year-old thrown from roof for being gay while Daesh chief he's caught with is spared



Islamic State (Isis) militants killed a 15-year-old boy for being gay by throwing him off a roof while the senior Daesh officer he was accused of having relations with was only demoted and sent to the front lines. Local media reported that the execution took place in the Syrian city of Deir ez-Zor, south east of the Islamic State (IS) stronghold of Raqqa on Friday 1 January.
The boy was arrested and charged by IS jihadists with homosexuality after being captured "in the house of an IS leader" who was said to be Abu Zaid al-Jazrawi.
The teenager was subsequently thrown off the roof in a main square of the city whilst the Isis leader was stripped off his position and sent to battlefields in Iraq. The punishment has been implemented dozens of times by Sharia courts since the militants took control of large swathes of Iraq and Syria.
"The horrific execution took place in front of a large crowd," a local media activist and eyewitness told the Syrian ARA News agency in the city. "The boy was accused of being engaged in a homosexual relation with the prominent Isis officer Abu Zaid al-Jazrawi," media activist Sarai al-Din said.
IS army chiefs are facing depleted numbers since losing ground in Syria and Iraq and the Sharia Court was convinced to send the leader to fight in Iraq instead. IS has lost ground to the Iraqi army in Ramadi, Kurdish forces in northern Iraq and to the Syrian army and associated air strikes in Syria.
"Abu Zaid was forced to leave Syria and join the fighting fronts in northwestern Iraq. The decision has been taken by the Isis leadership," al-Din said.
The punishment is often watched by crowds in the cities in the self-declared caliphate - gay men have also been executed by firing squad by the extremists.

Saturday 2 January 2016

Transitioning Out of the Closet



As most parents of trans men would say, "I'm losing my little girl." The unfortunate thing is that these men that are transitioning were never really "girls" to begin with. The thing that these mothers are learning to grasp are that these men weren't really girls to begin with. Trans men are, simply, born into the wrong body. Meaning: they have to work to be the men they were destined to be, so even when they were born with breasts and vaginas, those bodily organs do not make them any less than a man.
Trans men, though still men, have to work harder to look and be perceived as men. They bind their chests to have a more masculine chest, and buy packers to have a bulge in their pants, all to be perceived as a man. With time, and money, they start Testosterone injections to grow facial hair and a more masculine build. After two years of Testosterone injections and gender therapy to ensure that they really want to be a gender other than their own, they obtain a letter saying that they have a diagnosis of Gender Identity Disorder. This letter allows them to begin physically transitioning from female to male.
The physical transitions starts with a voluntary double mastectomy. In having this surgery, the surgeon removes breast tissue. Depending on the size of the breasts, the surgeon will also do a nipple graph. Meaning: the surgeon with reduce the size of the nipple and graph it onto a more masculine area of the chest to appear more like a male's chest. In doing this surgery, there are scars under each, now, pectorals, but to a Trans*Man, it is worth it because now they can feel themselves, without the need to wear a chest binder. They, now, feel a new found acceptance of themselves, an acceptance they didn't have before.
The whole reason of top surgery is to make the outside of the body reflect the want of the feelings on the inside. This means that trans men have this knowledge of what they want to look like on the outside, but they have to work for it through surgery, hormone replacement therapy, and acceptance of the people around them. No trans man wants to go through their transition alone. They want loved ones, family and friends, to be there when they wake up from surgery or when they get their first injection of testosterone or when they get their first chest or facial hair.
The problem with transitioning is most people don't have an understanding of what is going on, or to others what is "wrong" with them. The whole reason why most people have those perceptions are that society does not feel the need to be educated about the trans community. People in and out of the LGBT community do not know enough about the last letter of LGBT, Transgender. The problem does not lie within the transgender individual, it lies within the interpretations of the bodies of the individual. If a transgender individual says they want to do these things to their body, it is because they want to be perceived as who they feel they were meant to be.
Society asks transgender people why they want to transition into a gender other than their own. Most would respond with "I want to be who I was meant to be." Meaning: they were not born into the wrong body, they were born into a life that their parents wanted them to be. Their parents have this interpretation of who they want their child to be from the moment they learn the child's assigned sex at birth. They think about the relationships the child will have, the schooling they want to pursue, or the youthful clothes and toys they will play with, all based on a sex that they assume their gender will fall into.
It is not the fault of the parents, nor the child. They were simply not informed about the different aspects of a child's views on themselves and others. There are four different expressions and identities a child and parent are entitled to; assigned sex at birth, gender identity, gender expression, and sexual orientation. Assigned sex at birth is, simply, the sex you were given when you come out of the womb; female or male. Gender identity is the way a person wants to be, regardless of the sex they were assigned at birth; boy, girl, and anything in between. Gender expression is the way you want the world to see you as; the way you feel inside and how you want to express that to the world. Sexual orientation is who a person is attracted to; female, male, no one, everyone, and everything in between.
Everyone is entitled to these views of themselves, but not everyone is raised to be accepting of themselves and others. The way someone was brought up has a lot to do with the views they have on the world. If a person was raised to hate the LGBT community, they were, most likely, not raised to be accepting of others very well. Meaning: people act the way they were raised until they are taught something different. Life is a teaching process, no one knows the things they are going to learn day to day.
The views that society has on the transgender community are not going to change overnight. However, everyday is an opportunity to take a step towards a new beginning. That new beginning is accepting the people that most people are unaware of. Accepting the people that need to be seen the most. The people that are homeless because of the unacceptance, because of the oppression that society does not want to deal with.

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