I might not be the best person to give dating advice to people who struggle to get a date, because I never had that problem. My problem has always been to reject sympathetically. For some crazy reason I always had people interested in me who didn't attract me at all. On the other hand I must admit that I am glad that I am not part of the dating scene anymore. I have a partner and I am really not eager to go back to the hunting game. Not because I didn't enjoy it, I just don't want to start over again. For some reason I have always been part of the group who gives dating advice, and fortunately the rules haven't changed at all. There are always five types of single men out there and you have to decide who you are and what you are looking for.
The first group is the guys who want to hunt for the rest of their lives. If you are interested in a serious relationship they are not in the market - not that they will not eventually get there, they are just not there yet.
The second group is the guys who want to be looked after - they need a dad. If you have the burning need to mother somebody for the rest of your life, they are for you.
The third group is the guys who want to mother somebody - again if you want to be mothered.
The fourth group is the guys who has passed their sell-by date. They aren't all the same, but they roughly group together. This group includes the permanent bachelors, the guys who just never met somebody, the guys who will take anybody, and the everlasting hunters who got to old to hunt and do not know how to settle down.
The fifth group is the guys who want somebody in their life, but not a child or a dad. They are interested in an equal partner who can build a life together, and who have a life of their own. These guys are keepers and they come in all shapes, sizes, and personalities. Normally they have dealt with their issues and they got rid of their baggage. There are more than enough of them, so don't think you will never meet one.
The first thing you should decide is who you are, and what you are interested in. If you know who you are it means you have sorted out your issues, and guys who are sorted out attracts people. The more people you attract the better your chances of finding that special person. That is, if you really want a special person - nobody says you have to.
On the other hand we have to realise that life isn't always that simple. Maybe you are looking for one thing and getting another, and maybe you are more than happy with what you got. Life is also not that complicated, in most cases we all just want to be happy - whatever that might be for yo
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